The road to hell is paved with good intentions. This old English proverb is meant to prod us from merely thinking into concrete action. (Put aside for a moment the icky, fear-based method it conveys.)
The word intention, and its various forms, carry a lot of different undertones.
We set an intention before yoga class or meditation. The prosecution has to establish a clear intent during trials. Relationships become strained or ruined because of misunderstood intent.
But what does it even mean? Webster defines intention “as a thing intended; an aim or plan.”
Ok. How often in this “ready, fire, aim” world do we actually stop long enough to consider our plan of action?
The new year is the perfect time to put the power of intention into practice and allow it to guide us throughout the next twelve months and beyond.
So, how do you help ensure your intentions go down the pathway to promise instead of … well … the road to the other place?
Take an Unflinching Look Back
History is a great teacher, even though my high school self would roll her eyes at that. It’s true as long as we don’t get too stuck in it. Ask yourself –
- Did that (goal, conversation, action) turn out as I’d hoped? Why or why not?
- What do I want to remember from that experience to shape things going forward, i.e. what worked?
- What things do I want to change up going forward, i.e. what didn’t work?
This is NOT a time to beat yourself up over what didn’t work. Take the lesson and do differently going forward.
Determine Why and What Before How
In our always-on-the-go world, especially at work, we often mistake action for progress. It’s no wonder at the end of some days we feel more depleted than energized. Allow yourself a few moments to ask –
- Why am I pursuing this (goal, conversation, action)?
- What do I hope to get out of it? What do I hope other people gain from it?
- Is this really necessary now … or ever?
Phrase it, Own It, State It
Once you determine your motivation and desired outcome behind the goal, conversation, or action, put it into words. Create a short phrase – “My intent for getting out for a walk is to feel more energetic.” “My intent for this conversation is to come to an understanding on how best to move forward.”
Stick with me here. Now, say it out loud. Yes, I mean it! There’s a ton of evidence that saying things out loud increases the likelihood that you will stay on track with your intention. You don’t have to say it to anyone else, although it is helpful sometimes to clarify your intention at the beginning of a conversation, especially difficult ones.
Ok, you’re ready. Now go do it! And let me know how things turn out.